Being upfront is attractive
On The Naughty Pond, people appreciate knowing where they stand.
Saying what you're looking for, whether that's flirting, something casual or something regular, helps you find people who want the same thing and saves awkwardness later.
How to bring it up
- Start light. Get to know each other a little before getting into the details.
- Ask as well as tell. "What are you hoping to find on here?" is a great question.
- Be honest about your limits as well as your interests.
Consent and boundaries
- Agree before anything happens, and check in as things go.
- Anyone can change their mind, at any point. That's always OK.
- No means no. Respect it straight away, without argument.
If you're not on the same page
That's fine. A friendly "I don't think we're after the same thing" is kinder than going quiet. Read Naughty Pond etiquette.