Do
- Read their profile before you message, and mention something from it.
- Be clear about what you want, and respect what they want too.
- Ask before you share anything explicit, and only send it if they've said yes.
- Reply, even if it's a polite no. The one-click replies make it easy.
- Keep things discreet. What's shared in private stays private.
Don't
- Don't send unsolicited explicit pictures. Explicit images are blurred automatically, and unwanted ones can be reported.
- Don't push after a no. No means no, every time.
- Don't share anyone's details or photos outside the site.
- Don't approach a member you recognise in public unless they've said that's OK.
Why it matters
Good manners get replies. Members who are respectful and reliable get better conversations and earn badges like the Anti-Ghosting badge. Read what the badges mean.
For more on being upfront, read talking about what you want.